Some people think that having sex during pregnancy is a terrible idea. The way I see it is: I’m pregnant, not dead.
No, I’m not pregnant. But I was once, and I spent the second trimester trying to explain to my then-husband that it was totally okay to make love to a pregnant lady.
“It’s a lie,” I used to say when he said he was scared something would happen to the baby, “perpetuated by the church in the Middle Ages. Scientifically, it’s good to go!”
But, personal experiences apart, there’s no denying that the more typical sexual positions can be and feel a bit weird, particularly as the tummy grows and takes up more room.
So here are five sex positions you can try instead of the usual missionary…
Side-by-Side: Because you’re not meant to lie on your back for too long during the second and third trimesters, the traditional missionary position isn’t exactly a good idea. But lying on your sides with your body twisted towards your partner, facing each other. To make things even more comfortable for you, place a pillow under your lower back.
Doggy: It’s a classic and it works wonders when pregnant. Lie on all fours and have him penetrate you from the back. Moreover, he can lean in and massage your breasts or your labia – both of which need plenty of massaging as they become swollen due to pregnancy.
Spooning: Whether you’re a big spoon or a little spoon, you will have to make due with being a little spoon when you’re pregnant – which, let’s face it, is not the most terrible thing in the world. This position also works during sex. Just make sure that he grabs you from just underneath the breasts rather than your stomach.
Cowgirl: Have him lie down and climb on top of him cowgirl style. You may not be able to do this from beginning to end but, then again, changing positions can be great to get you to orgasm because – gasp – pregnant women should still enjoy sex!
Face-to-Face: Put a load of pillows on top of each other near the edge of the bed and plonk yourself on top of them. The guy, on the other hand, can kneel or stand – whatever tickles his fancy. This may take a while to set up, particularly as you’ll need to get the pillow height just right while still being comfortable, but it’s well-worth the hassle.
So go on, don’t give up on life’s pleasures just because you have a bun in the oven!
There are some precautions that partners might need to take and some risk factors of which they should be aware.
Always consult your doctor first, be safe.