Many people live life as a waiting game. On Monday they wait for Friday; in Winter they wait for Summer; when they’re single they wait to find love. This waiting will only lead them to regret, and to missing out on other opportunities life may be offering them right now. As the years roll by and they get older, they often end up mourning for what was, and be anxious about what is to come.
It’s vital to develop an appreciation of the present; to relish every second of your life as if it were your last, and to value it. Remember that the present moment is the only one in which you’re feeling exactly what you’re meant to be feeling. Unlike past or future, the present is the time you are actually living. Surely, we should learn from our history and our errors so as not to repeat the same mistakes, but we should not wallow in the past. Likewise, whereas we should prepare for what is to come, we must not obsess on what the future may hold for us, since there too are many variables to consider, most of which are ultimately outside of our control.
Our life is happening now, and how we deal with things will have a bearing both on our own future as well as on that of those around us. Failing to recognise and practice the present as early on as possible will allow it to slip through our fingers. Our joy and happiness for what’s going on now may be lost forever.
It’s ironic how living in the now seems to come easier in troubled times or illness than during other more serene periods in our lives. When we fall ill, we usually focus on our ailments and what needs to be done to get back on our feet soonest. Similarly, in other distressful situations, we do our utmost to resolve the issue quickly. However, when things are smoother and life seems to be back on track, we’re oriented towards what was, or what is to come, often missing the what is. This behaviour distracts us from any signs such situations might be throwing at us.
So whether at work, at home, in company or alone, you should learn how to enjoy and live the moment. Be conscious that if you are to make any changes at all, now is the time to make them. Therefore learn to be more mindful of your present surroundings and atmosphere; what is happening and what you are actually doing. Just observe and internalise. Learn to be still and just be, here and now. A great help to start this practice is by eliminating anything which may distract you, especially gadgets. I’d also suggest that you keep pen and paper handy so as to jot down any unrelated thoughts and ideas which come to mind, rather than dwell on them.
Try not to over-analyse, or to wish for something different but accept the moment and live it through. Life is but a short adventure which we’re encouraged to live to the full. Therefore, whereas multitasking is as inevitable as is analysing our past behaviours for constant improvement, you should practice and learn how to focus on, and enjoy, doing just one activity for specific periods of time. It could be enjoying the company of a friend or a loved one, listening to music or reading. Become more aware of your senses and of your feelings during these times.
Such practice will allow you to get more in tune with yourself and with your environment. You will become more aware of that which gives you pleasure and joy, as opposed to those circumstances or activities you’d rather avoid. In so doing, you are growing and becoming a more balanced happier you.