A few months ago, my boyfriend and I made friends with a wonderful group of people we met at a bar who happened to be gay. We hit it off right away over some Jack Cokes, and we’ve enjoyed their company every weekend over these last few months.
But my boyfriend seems to be enjoying the attention of one of them a little too much. At first I thought I was being paranoid, but then I started to notice that throughout the evening, he’d spend more time in conversation with a particular gentleman than with me. It’s not that I want to be possessive over him, and we respect each other’s space, but it’s now come to a point where they spend way too much time chatting on Facebook at the expense of our together-time. I actually really like this guy as a friend. He’s incredibly personable, funny, friendly and charming, and I cannot bring myself to dislike him in the least. However, he’s brought about a change in my boyfriend which I’ve never seen before.
A few days ago, my boyfriend’s mother and I were going through some old baby photos of him, and I came across quite a few where he was always dressing himself up in a toga made from bed sheets, or wearing them in the form of a dress. I know we shouldn’t limit children based on gender, and I for one am against giving blue items to boys and pink to girls, but from a young age, my boyfriend seems to have not minded wearing girls’ clothing. He’s a very fashion conscious man, and some would say he’s metrosexual, but in other aspects, I can vouch that he’s very heterosexual. However, he’s now become quite touchy-feely with this friend of ours when we’re out, and he spends more time with him than he does holding my hand.
As of yet, I’m really not sure what to make of this. I don’t know if I should confront him about it, and I’m not sure if I should conclude that he’s either gay or bisexual. Our sex life has remained constant, but in terms of how long it lasts, it’s become shorter these last few weeks. I’m afraid to ask these questions because I don’t know how I’ll handle the answers.