You’ll be surprised…
The iconic verse in the Eagles’s Hotel California is very telling of human nature: “Some dance to remember, some dance to forget…” Letting go – in all its shapes and forms – is the result of either of two scenarios: to celebrate life, or to escape it. Drinking is a big part of that.
Letting go of inhibitions is one of alcohol’s biggest pleasures. Life under the influence doesn’t seem like a burden, but an adventure in which anything and everything is possible. We’re not shy to speak to our crush, to dance, to laugh, to say things we otherwise wouldn’t. Of course, the morning after doesn’t always agree with our choices.
Which is why it’s ironic that we drink to forget how stressed we are. You’d think that right after a break-up, or after a day from hell at work, or when we’re feeling depressed, we’d want to unwind over a hot cup of tea, but instead, we drink. We drink to mend our hearts and to go into a world in which responsibility doesn’t exist, not realising that our feelings will come back to haunt us, bigger and scarier, when we’re sober again.
For you see, alcohol only fills the void temporarily. And when we drink to forget all the crap that’s going on around us – how unkind people can be, how terrible the world is, how meaningless life can sometimes feel, how much we wanted to achieve by the time we got to where we are now – we forget that alcohol is neither the answer nor the solution. But it helps.
Alcohol helps us appear happier, and as if we are more in control of things in our life. Who’d guess that you cried yourself to sleep last night when you’re out drinking, laughing and dancing tonight? You may make a fool of yourself, but they won’t know the extent of your sadness. Alcohol, in more ways than one, has supposedly salvaged many a reputation.
But the main reason why most people drink is because they don’t know what else to do. It offers them a feeling of false security, it takes the reigns out of their hands, it penetrates their blood, their mind, their senses, their lucidity, and makes them – if only for a short while – feel great again.
So when you see someone drinking a lot, look beyond the glass and the glazed look, and try to figure out why they’re drinking in the first place. Because some people drink to remember, while others drink to forget.
What are your sobering thoughts on the matter?
If you cannot control your drinking, do refer to professionals for support.