It’s not as simple as people make it out to be!
Mistakes: we all make them. Whether it’s saying something that we shouldn’t have or losing our concentration and screwing something up, to err is human. Having said this, making mistakes is the best way to learn about ourselves, the world and others… And the secret lies in knowing what to take away from those mistakes…
Clarifications: What do we really want in life? What makes us truly happy? Who do we really aspire to be? A lot of the time, we have fabricated and disillusioned ideas of what a certain situation or person will be like, only to realise it’s not really for us… We can’t know that it’s not for us until we’ve tried and failed or didn’t enjoy it. So for starters, make sure that you delve into the why it didn’t make you happy, even if you simply discover that the only thing that went sour was your attitude.
Intuition: Your gut feeling doesn’t just come from nowhere. You need to have experienced certain things to be able to tell whether future ones will pan out the same way. That is why the older you get, the wiser you’ll become… well, supposedly at least. So use past experiences, patterns and signs so as to not fall into the same trap twice, be it in relationships, in jobs, in friendships or in everyday life.
Integrity: Mistakes are often the result of broken promises, over-commitments, and the pursuit of avoidance of arguments and clashes. Each step you take that is not in line with your values can snowball into something bigger. But how would you know that if you’ve never erred? So when that does happen, take note of what your conscience tells you and act on it from then on.
Responsibility: When we make a mistake, there are two paths that can be taken: to own up to it, apologise and (try to) fix it, or to shove the blame onto someone else. Whatever your decision may be, there are many lessons you can take away from that about responsibility. Needless to say, owning up to it will not just make you the bigger person, but it will also make you a better one.
Acceptance: Nobody’s perfect and no matter how much we learn, we will continue to make mistakes. In the words of J.K. Rowling: ‘It is impossible to live without failing at something, unless you live so cautiously that you might as well not have lived at all – in which case, you fail by default.’ So learn to accept the fact that you’re not perfect and that you never will be, and accept that this is perfectly fine.
So when you make a mistake, take a deep breath and move on.
What else can we learn from our mistakes?
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