Dear Maltese Women,
I don’t care if you’re a housewife or a high-flying lawyer or juggling both. I don’t care if you’re single, married, or a single mother, or if you’re skinny or fat. I don’t care if you identify as a wife, a mother or a feminist first and foremost. I don’t care what religion you are, or what the colour of your skin is. What I care about is that we need to unite and realise that our rights matter too.
Over the past couple of months, we have seen debate after debate about laws that are coming up, and things that people want to take away from us. What worries me is that not only do we not stand our ground or fight back, but we actually instigate these changes to come about.
For centuries, we’ve been fighting for our right to vote, to make sure our voices are heard, to go out to work, to be recognised…
And what do we do? We throw it all away in the name of morality and all that we’ve been brainwashed with at Mużew.
Mothers against embryo freezing… Really? You’re already a mother, how could you stop someone else from becoming one too? We’ve gone so up our own arses, we’ve forgotten the purpose of science – to make our lives better and simpler.
We don’t want to understand the world just for the sake of it; we want to understand it so we can change that which we can. Don’t tell me it’s not natural or that it goes against your morals. If you have no problem using science and medicine to cure an otherwise fatal disease, how can you be fervently against the freezing of fertilised eggs – which are not even foetuses yet – in the hopes that, one day, that woman can become a parent?
For those of you who are against abortion – oh my God. It makes my blood boil. Chill out and realise that not everyone wants to be a parent. It’s unreal. This is such mind-boggling hypocrisy. We are simultaneously fighting to stop people from becoming parents and from ending their pregnancy. And what’s worse is that the same lobby groups that fight for women’s rights are the ones opposing abortion.
Have we completely lost it? Abortion is one of the things feminists fought for, and we’re here, all Netflix and chill, going ‘Nah. It’s not Catholic practice.’ Because a woman assuming she has an equal say is very Catholic practice, isn’t it? Oh leave off.
And can we stop all this talk about how I’d need to be raped, beaten or abused to seek a divorce or abortion? It’s the 21st century. If I’m unhappy, I don’t have to stay within my marriage. Women didn’t do it in the past because it would have resulted in losing everything, including the roof over their heads, any money they had inherited and the right to see their children. And let me not even get into how many lives and reputations abortion could have saved 50, 80, 100 or 150 years ago.
But most of all, we need to stop back stabbing each other. Enough with the endless hypocrisy. Stop thinking that a woman must go out to work to do something worthwhile, but then gasp at women who dare to speak their mind. We have bigger fish to fry and foes we must unite against.
In a previous article on how some women don’t want kids, we received the following comment:
“This is pure and utter bull****. Our first instinct and the laws of nature are to procreate the next generation of our species, just like every other animal. And yes I said animal, ’cause that’s what we all are, animals. We may be civilized, be we’re still animals with animalistic instincts… Yeah, a woman can decide to have children or not, but why would you stop procreating your future generations just so you can say, ‘Hey look, I’m a woman and I’m as good as a man, I need to let go of my family future just so I can hold on to the thing I want most…’ Wow what a smart choice, so you would be sacrificing the next generation just for yourself? That’s selfishness, not righteousness… So why don’t we just cut the bullcrap and thinking all this is sexist, a female’s primary purpose is to find a mate and procreate the next generation, then do whatever she wants.”
This is what some people still think we are born to do. Not to be individuals with whims and hopes and dreams…
I refuse to be confined to a kitchen sink, and by Jove, I will not wear a chastity belt. And you know what, if I want to become Muslim and wear a burqa, I will too.
Stop allowing others to tell us what we can and can’t do, what we can and can’t wear, and whether we can be parents or not. It’s my body, my life, my choice.
A slightly pissed off Evelyn x
What do you think of Evelyn’s arguments? Do you agree? Disagree?
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