I recently watched a programme on a local TV station and one of the characters turned to his daughter and said, “It is your duty as a married woman to have children.” I know that that person was speaking in character but, unfortunately, he was also speaking on behalf of a lot of people who think exactly the same way.

The fact that women need to have babies is hardly disputable. If every woman in the world decided to never procreate, that would spell the end of our species.

But one would hope that we’ve arrived at a point when a woman can decide whether she wants to have children or not, at a point when a 7,000,000,000+ global population gives women everywhere the choice of being single, or of being hitched without spewing all the babies she can muster.

Well, almost.

We live in a time when women are now breaking the age-old boundaries of where they can and can’t go. Do you want to have a career? Go for it. Do you want to be an astronaut? Don’t let me stand in your way.

In fact, if there’s one thing Mattel’s done right over the past 50 years, it’s the latest Barbie commercial, which shows a little girl pretending to be all the things she is able to become when she’s grown up.

There are still many people who assume that, no matter what a woman ‘dares’ to become, at the end of the day, she will have to go home and be a homemaker, a mother and a wife.


A woman, just like any man, has the right to be whatever she wants to be and do what she wants to. She can have 50 children or none. She can have a career, or 10, or none, and by God, she has every right to juggle both of those if she wants to.

Let’s stop all this ridiculous, sexist talk that a woman must have children or that a woman must get married. ‘Must’ is not a word to be used in such instances, and it’s about time we got that.

Do you agree with James? Is it ‘okay’ for a woman not to have children?

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