We all have questions, particularly when we go to a psychologist. Some questions we’re not ashamed to ask, but others may scare the living daylights out of us. That’s why I’ve asked them and got them answered for you.

Am I normal?

Of course, you’re normal! We all have weird thoughts and strange memories, we all feel out of place. ‘Normal’ is a very unnerving term that literally leaves out 99 per cent of the population that doesn’t adhere to its strict rules and regulations. No matter how you feel, you should never feel abnormal.

Why do you ask me to keep coming? Am I really that effed up?

Going to a psychologist is a journey, not a one-time solution. Some people need months of therapy, others need years. It’s fine. You should allow yourself the time needed to get better and feel better and, even once things start to change within you – and, as a result, around you – that doesn’t mean that you’re done. Sometimes it’s important to understand that certain traumas may take a lifetime to get over.

I’m ashamed to tell my friends and family that I go to a psychologist. Should I be?

This is completely up to you, of course. Some people are fine with going to a psychologist while others aren’t. There is nothing to be ashamed of if you do. Seeking help makes you a stronger person, not a weak one. Unfortunately, some people still look at psychologists as the people who work with ‘lunatics’, but this is neither true nor fair. Psychologists help many different people from many walks of life.


There must be something wrong with me if I need a psychologist, right?

Wrong. The reality is that everyone has issues to deal with. Issues that stem from childhood, from traumas, and from life in general. Some people like to deal with them by themselves, others prefer having a professional to talk to.

I am nervous my experiences and thoughts will shock you. Could they?

No. As trained professionals we have seen and heard it all before – we’ve seen and studied is all before too and it is our job to help you. Your story may seem unusual to you, but it is our role in life to show you that you are normal and that we can guide you, whatever your worries may be.

Are there any other questions you’re too embarrassed to ask your psychologist?

Let us know and Evelyn will answer them in the next edition of this series.