Your Dream. Where Has it Gone?

People nowadays are very careful of what they eat. They know that some foods are more beneficial, healthy and nutritious to their bodies than others. They are selective of what is good or bad for them. They do a lot of research on what they should and should not consume. They spend a lot of time, money and effort to make sure that what they are eating, is helping their bodies live longer. We live in a world where ‘you are what you eat’.

But do we really stop for a moment sometimes to ask ourselves: “What is eating us inside?” Many people die because of what they eat, but many are the people who die because of what is eating them inside.


Many people forget about their dreams. They forget that intrinsically, they were born to do something particular in life. They forget that they have a calling: to fulfil what really makes their heart beat fast. I don’t know what that dream is that you have, because I have never met you. But what you must keep in mind is that your dream that you are holding in your head, still makes your heart tick every time you think of it. I’ve hit a nerve there, right?

And just postponing it won’t help. Just thinking about it and not doing it makes you die a little bit more inside every time you lay your head on your pillow at night.

I really don’t believe that we were born to just wake up, go to work, go home, watch the news and go to bed – only to do the same thing over and over again. I believe that we were called to grow and discover our skills and talents. Many people stop growing, unfortunately. They stop working on themselves. They bury their dreams in a disguise by calling it ‘practicality’ or by saying ‘That’s silly, I can’t do that!” But sometimes, we must just go for it and remember that it’s better to fail in what you love doing than fail in something that you hate. Of course, doing the latter is much easier.

We can easily watch others become successful and fulfil their once labelled ‘impossible’ dreams. We prefer to procrastinate our own dreams and desires of doing something or becoming that someone we want to be. And that’s very sad. It also frustrates you deep inside. You lose that gratitude towards life because you think that life is not being good to you. You become negative and you feel lost. You blame others and point fingers at everyone else except yourself for feeling that frustration. And all of this, because you never had the guts to pluck up enough courage to take that course that you’ve been looking at for some time, to work hard for that promotion or that body that you have always wanted; you don’t give yourself the time to seek the knowledge you require to get that skill – like those dance classes you’ve always wanted to take part in or the specialisation in your field; you preferred to stay in bed instead of attending that seminar that you know could have helped you mingle with the right people who currently have the same hunger and drive as you once had to pursue your dream.

When we put aside what we really feel is right for us, we commit spiritual suicide. And I’m not talking ghostly spirits. I’m talking about your self-worth, your wholeness or whatever you would like to call it. But it’s all about killing what really makes you ‘you’. And then your life becomes what people call ‘boring’.

Fear is another factor that we give in too easily to. You should feel the fear, but do it anyway. Consider fear as the responsible step that you must heed to before taking action. Consult it. Listen to it. But face it. Don’t be afraid of it. We see our partners laughing at us for suggesting that we want to take on that new skill, we hear our parents or siblings telling us that it is not the right way forward. Or even worse – we believe that we are not worth it; that we do not matter. Of course you matter. Your presence and absence makes a difference to your little group of friends, your family, your cat or dog and your society. You matter. You have greatness within you that you need to unwrap. And when you feel that you don’t matter, you create your own stumbling blocks between what you are today and what you want to become.

As the African proverb goes “If there’s no enemy within, the enemy without can do us no harm”. So yes, before you look at the obstacles like your job, money or relationships that keep you from pursuing your dream, make sure you are at peace with yourself. So look yourself in the mirror and know that success does not require you to look outside the window, but it requires you to look in the mirror.

Therefore, pursue your dreams. Do something about it. And that’s NOW. There’s no guarantee of another tomorrow. What you want to achieve is there in your heart and mind. How you’re going to get to it, is the next question you must ask yourself. And there are ways. Things and opportunities will start falling into your lap – if you have faith in your goal. And start from the little obvious bit – picture yourself in it.

Look at every stumbling block in your life as an opportunity and not as an obstacle. Just get out your chisel called ‘determination’ and carve out pedestals out of your stumbling blocks. Then you can stand on top of those pedestals and have a better view of your dream.

Ask yourself and answer these questions (honestly):

  • Where have you been?
  • Why are you where you are now?
  • Where do you want to go?