How To Help Your Children Make Friends


Our school days are, by far, some of the most defining years of our lives; they can push us forward or hinder us like shackles. Most of the time, however, it all boils down to one thing: whether we feel alone and unaccepted or whether we feel a part of something.

Having friends at school is imperative. Hell, having friends in life is imperative. Think about it: who do most people run to when something doesn’t go according to plan, when they have a problem, when they want to celebrate or when they’re feeling lonely?

The answer? Their friends!

What’s more, friends are an essential part of a person’s idea of the scholastic environment, and when the years have passed by and they forget how to find the value of ‘x’, they will still be able to look back and say, ‘I didn’t really have many friends at school …’

Well, it doesn’t have to be that way, and as parents it’s our job to help!

Friendship Starts At Home: Teaching children to share, be charitable, not tell on each other and to be nice not only gives them tools that will prove to be invaluable later on in life, but will help them make friends more easily once they go to school.

Understand Your Child: Forcing your child to befriend certain people will not work. Instead, figure out your child’s likes and dislikes and help him or her use them to his or her advantage. For example, if your child likes to draw (or do drama, or sing, or swim), find out if anyone else at the school enjoys doing that and see where they hang out. Also, remember, that while opposites might attract in the bedroom, they might not attract on the playground.

Open Your Life To Their Friends: Allowing your child to hang out with his or her friends at your home or with you makes all the difference. It creates a sense of loyalty and brings them closer.

Be Objective: Fights are bound to happen, but it’s important to remember that your child can’t always be right. We all make mistakes and we are all unfair from time to time. It is important to be an impartial judge when your child is experiencing problems with his or her friends – and remember, a comment from you might end a perfectly good friendship, so tread carefully.

Do you have any other hints and tips on how to help children make new friends? Let us know in the comments box below.