After an exhilarating night out, I took the night bus home alone. It felt safe until I got off the bus and was faced with a very dark, very empty street.
A man began calling after me so I turned around in case I knew who it was. I didn’t. I walked faster. He took this as a sign that he should run towards me.
My heart was pounding while I was trying to get my little legs to speed up. Then before I knew it, I stopped and spurted out, “Can you stop following me, please?”
I could hear my voice shaking with fear that he was going to hurt me, but I stood my ground.
Me: “Can you stop following me, please?”
Me: “Because you’re making me uncomfortable.”
Him: “Okay.” He shakes my hand and says, “Bye.”
Although I can commend him for actually leaving when I asked him to, it shocks me that he felt the need to ask ‘why’ I don’t want him to follow me.
As a result, I write to all the Don Juans of the world:
I write this letter with nothing but good faith that you have innocent intentions when you run behind girls.
However, I must ask you: have you ever actually heard of this tactic achieving any results? I haven’t a single friend who has ever said “Oh my God, I met the most amazing guy after he ran up behind me on the street,” so I’m guessing that the technique does not work (though please correct me if I’m wrong).
The reason for this is simple. Have you ever actually considered that being followed on a dark and deserted street (in a foreign country, in my case), is incredibly intimidating? If you call after a girl and she does not come towards you, take this as a sign that she does not want to talk to you.
There are plenty more ways to approach women without terrifying them.
Please Google this and use them.
Thanking you in advance for your improved street-etiquette.
The girls who walk faster