Kirstie Allsopp, British presenter of the hit property TV show Relocation, Relocation, Relocation, recently sparked outrage by stating during an interview with The Daily Telegraph that if she had a daughter she would tell her ‘Darling do you know what? Don’t go to university. Start work straight after school, stay at home, save up a deposit – I’ll help you, let’s get you into a flat. And then we can find you a nice boyfriend and you can have a baby by the time you’re 27.’
Of course, at first glance, it’s not hard to see why so many people are up in arms about this quote; suggesting that a woman should forgo a degree and a career in order to raise babies in this day and age is almost taboo. But once you look into the full interview, you realise that all this media hysteria has done is hide Kirstie’s actual point: a woman’s fertility window.
After the above quote went viral, Kirstie was forced to appear on BBC News night to explain what she really meant, and it actually made a lot sense. She explained that she wasn’t suggesting that women shouldn’t opt to have an education or a career, but that they might consider reorganising the order in which they live their lives. Allsopp explained that whilst we now live 20 years longer than we did 100 years ago, the amount of time that a woman has to reproduce hasn’t changed. Once we hit 35, it can be very difficult to have children.
So, what Allsop was trying to say was that, if you’re sure that you want children, why risk it? Have children when you know you can and the concentrate on your degree and career when they are old enough, or find a way to do both at the same time. I realise now that she wasn’t trying to hold women back in any way at all, she was actually trying to warn women about the risks of leaving it too late and facing heartbreak later on in life.