If you’re fed up of the endless fights and constant mediating in your life, then it might be time to cut the crap out of it.
Truth is, you will never get to a point in which life is a smooth-sailing journey. For the good times to feel good you need the bad times to feel bad, but that doesn’t mean that you should put up with the extra drama in your life.
It’s very easy to get stuck in a rut in which everything we do or say is judged and turned into an argument; in which every night out is another episode of Dawson’s Creek waiting to happen, and in which every time the phone rings another war is given the go ahead.
But like many other things in life, it is you who has the power to say ‘No!’ to that which bothers you – and it’s not that difficult once you actually know where to start.
Are You Creating the Drama? It’s a tough question but one which must be answered. When a lot of drama starts popping up in your life, you need to remember that the one variable that’s not changing is You. Take some time to understand what’s going on, who’s to “blame” and how to fix it.
Change Your Perspective. Sometimes people may wrong you, but if you only took the time to step into their shoes, you’d understand why. It doesn’t make it okay for them to do so, but it gives you a new perspective onto which you can sort things out. Never allow yourself to become self-centred enough to not appreciate the other party’s perspective.
Don’t Let Others Suck You In. When people come to you with problems, listen to them. If you can’t help them, walk away. When you validate other people’s complaints, you’re allowing them to drag you into their drama.
Be Clear: One great way to avoid drama is to let people know what’s bugging you straight away. Be clear about how you feel and how you would like them to act around you. It’s not easy, but it will save you a lot of hassle.
Reconsider Your Relationships: Sometimes people take you for granted, at others they just drag you down. If there is someone who constantly makes you feel like crap, scrap them.
Do you agree with James’s tips on how to reduce the drama in your life? Would you add anything to the list? Let us know!