Think being a stay-at-home dad means you’re a failure? Think you’ll get bored? Think again!
When one of my friends told me and some other friends of ours that he was planning on quitting his job to look after the kids full-time, an essence of trepidation filled the air. Some of our pals joked that he needed to grow a pair, others that he wasn’t fulfilling his role as the family breadwinner, and some said they were jealous that he was going to be at home doing nothing all day but watching day-time TV.
But is that really what stay-at-home dads should be worried about? And why should fathers even consider this as an option? Here’s what I think.
Satisfaction: How many of us have a nine-to-five job that doesn’t give us any satisfaction whatsoever? …who work our arses off just to get paid once a month and we couldn’t care less about what we actually do? Well, being a stay-at-home dad is really not like that: you’ll be looking after your own children, so you’ll care, and every time you do something for them or around the house, you’ll appreciate it more!
Time-Management: You don’t get a lot of time off as a stay-at-home dad, granted, but you’ll get to manage your time around your own needs. It’s like being your own boss and you don’t have to answer to anyone (apart from your wife, your children’s teachers and your children, of course). Plus, you’ll be surprised at how many things you can get done in a day when you’re not at a desk!
Less Stress: Parenting is a stressful job, but the pros outnumber the cons so much that no matter what happens, you’ll always feel better about yourself and your work. Of course, there will be days when you’ll feel like banging your head against a wall, but that’s life not being a stay-at-home dad.
The Firsts: How many fathers have missed their child’s first words, first steps, first poop in the potty? Being a stay-at-home dad will give you the opportunity to be there and to experience them, if only a bit reluctantly.
Meeting Women: When you take your kids to school or to play dates, you are likely to meet other children’s mothers and you can get talking and flirting, and who knows…
I’m just kidding with the last point, of course, but as you can see, being a stay-at-home dad can indeed have many, many perks! You just need to learn to make the most of them!
Are you a stay-at-home dad? Do you agree with the points James has made? Let us know!