“Happiness is not something ready-made. It comes from our own actions” (Dalai Lama)
If you want to succeed in life, building resilience is a key factor. When faced with a stressful or traumatic experience, some people deal with the negative experience effectively and efficiently, while others struggle for years. Remaining resilient in the face of adversity helps you move forward in life, to reach goals and to succeed. So what are the key ingredients to building a resilient character?
Your ability to adapt to stressful events depends on both inborn traits and environmental factors. Certain environmental conditions, such as for example poverty, can be hard to change, but everyone can work on their mental and physical habits. Here are a few quick tips:
- Manage your stress levels. A bit of stress is good for you and helps strengthening your performance in certain situations. Stress is therefore not to be avoided in its entirety, but a resilient person knows how to tame and master their stress. Practice mindfulness meditation.
- Learn to accept yourself, including your faults. This will also make it easier to be sociable and to be around new people. Human beings are inherently social beings and strengthening your social skills will help you succeed in a social world.
- Learn to regulate your emotions. Negative emotions are natural and often provide important information about a situation, but if left to themselves they can also end up doing more harm than good. Keep a positive, but realistic attitude (cognitive reappraisal).
- Make sure to have a good network of family and friends; and a stable environment (school, work and neighbourhood).
- Stay physically fit.
Resilience involves an ability to stay strong and focused in the face of life’s difficulties and it helps you achieve your goals and dreams. So get cracking and strengthen your resilience for a better future!