Is Sexuality Fluid?

Can someone really be gay or straight, or is it all one big myth?

When it comes to sexual orientation, we’re all very much label-oriented. We often wonder why an effeminate man hasn’t come out yet and labelled himself as ‘gay’, how some gay men can find breasts attractive and not be ‘straight’, why straight women are more likely to kiss other women and enjoy it than straight men kissing other men would.

But what is it with labels? Ever thought that maybe it is not about the labels? That maybe it’s not about being gay or being straight or about restricting ourselves to one sex all the time? That, maybe, sexuality is fluid?

Yes, it’s all one big new-age concept.

“It’s been like this for eternity,” I can hear some of you argue. “I only like men,” I can hear others say.

But how do you know that’s not what society has led you to believe? In another place and at another time and under different circumstances, would you have been more willing to experiment? To let your real sexuality come out?

I mean, is it wrong if I enjoy having sex with a man, as much as I enjoy having sex with a woman? Or that my experimentation phase left me more confused about which sex I prefer?

I believe that sexuality is fluid and that everyone, to some degree, likes the other and the same sex, sexually. Not because we’re all greedy but because, as human beings, we transcend the notion that we are static.

The Romans and the Grecians knew this and they were not afraid of experimenting or of gaining the knowledge that comes from sex. They knew that sex was holy and that metaphorically sharing a bed with others – be it men or women – brought them closer to the divine.

My point here is that, whether it’s male-on-male, female-on-female or female-on-male action, sexuality cannot be defined and shouldn’t define us. And while I appreciate it’s a tough concept to wrap our heads around, it’s also one that relieves us of a lot of stress and insecurities because – and let’s be honest here – many of us have fancied someone of the same or opposite sex and assumed we shouldn’t, but then again, it did feel just right …


What do you think of James’s argument? Do you think sexuality is fluid?

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