In British humour and comedy sarcasm is a popular form of entertainment. Sarcasm is defined in one dictionary as “A mocking, often ironic or satirical remark, usually intended to wound as well as amuse.”

Amuse it does, at someone’s expense, and we can enjoy an evening at a theatre laughing with the audience.

Light, occasional sarcasm is not harmful but once we understand that our thoughts and words are energy, sarcasm being negative energy, we can see that sarcasm serves no positive purpose. It only lowers the “vibration”.

Once sarcasm enters a relationship (personal, business… any relationship) as habit, there is a constant flow of negative energy from one partner to the other. Constant criticism has the same effect. A child is often told off for doing wrong, but as one client said to me “I had to ask my father to tell me if I was doing something right. It was all negative. I hated it.”

People use sarcasm consciously, to amuse or to harm, or subconsciously without realising what harm they are causing. In a relationship, if one person feels “wronged”, even for an insignificant reason in the other’s eyes, and uses sarcasm to express anger, it can drive a wedge between the two, rather than heal the wound.

Ultimately it can be a reason why the other leaves the relationship. Nobody wants to look forward to years of sarcasm or criticism. It is a kind of nagging which achieves nothing.

So before you use sarcasm, ask yourself if it will achieve anything, beyond your satisfaction at being negative or hurting someone.