Some time ago there was a study where two different groups of people were compared. One group was fed and then given a shopping cart to go shopping for food at a supermarket. Another group was hungry when they went shopping. It was found that people who went shopping on an empty stomach tend to spend more money and buy more junk food.
What does this have to do with sex and relationships I hear you wonder? The same concept can be applied to people and relationships. We meet a lot of people who are actively looking for a new partner. Some to show their ex that they can find someone weeks, if not days after they were dumped. Others have set goals for themselves: in a relationship by 25; married by 30 and have kids by 35. Most would even get into a relationship because they only feel adequate and complete with a significant other.
The problem with this is that people who are actively looking for a partner are doing so because they need it and this is why most people settle for the best person who comes along as opposed to the person who they feel they want to spend the rest of their lives with. We all have that friend….the kind of friend who falls head over heels in love with the partner of their dreams. They are ready to tell us all about it although we know that in 12 months’ time we will be reliving this scene all over again with the next partner.
My suggestion is to first feel complete as a person and then get into relationships. You will find your Mr/Mrs Right when you don’t NEED them…