ANGER MANAGEMENT

I fear that we are getting into the habit of taking the law into our own hands. During a time of great technological advances and innovative discoveries, the world has never been so divided. We seem to be losing all sense of control as well as respect towards each other and towards our planet. We are becoming increasingly individualistic, focused solely on our well-being and seeking instant solutions to our problems.

We strive to regulate everything and where necessary eliminate all obstacles to achieve positive results in all of our endeavours but are failing miserably when it comes to self-control. We boast of having reached new heights in several capacities, but we do everything on the fast lane. We are unable to stop and evaluate our planned courses of action to avoid doing things we may later regret.

Responding to immediate impulses is oftentimes dangerous. It reduces our ability to analyse and reason out matters. Anger, in particular, reduces our ability to think clearly. It is an emotion that arises in situations where one wants to achieve control, feel powerful and/or fight injustice. Whereas, if managed well, anger can act as a motivation to mobilise change, allowing it to get the best of us, will inevitably lead to harm of oneself, possibly to those we are in disagreement with and even disrupt any potential compromise or solution. So the approach should not be one of completely suppressing anger, but channelling it into positive action to achieve a valuable outcome. One must be able to expel anger in a way that is satisfactory to the person experiencing it, and that does not cause damage to anyone or anything else.

Anger management should be tackled and taught at school from a young age. Parents and grown-ups are duty bound to give positive examples. It is imperative to coach our children, and some adults on how to express their disapproval and negative feelings in words rather than in harmful actions. The individual who is the object of the anger should listen rather than occupy his mind on how to retaliate and get his way irrespectively.
When we feel that we are starting to completely lose control and may lash out, we must move away and vent out the anger through some physical activity until we are calm and lucid enough. In some instances, this may take a few hours, days or even weeks. Other times and if the person involved is not so close, the best solution may be to just keep away and avoid confrontation.

Violence oftentimes is a result of an inability to control one’s anger and to delegate control to police force or other professionals, who are specifically trained to diffuse and resolve potentially explosive situations. Trying to take the law into our own hands is never a good idea and inevitably ends up causing more harm to victim, perpetrator and to both families.