LET’S TALK ABOUT PORN

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Nowadays you can hardly reproach anyone for watching porn. It’s become pretty much a compulsory 80s-generation weekly routine, to the point where it’s considered abnormal not to watch porn.

So, what’s all the fuss about? Porn is something to masturbate to, to get some ideas from or to support one’s sex life. It’s a rather normal way to pass the time, one might think… unless of course we’re talking about habitual porn watching, which is where we enter a troubling realm.

Because what is porn? It is an artificial and false interpretation of sex. Porn is created to promote maximum direct sexual stimulation for the viewer, not to enhance the pleasure of its participants. Thus, very little bodily interaction or contact occurs during porn sex, which is very different to the real thing, where you’re meant to dive into the moment without having to think about how it all looks on camera.

It lacks sensuality. It lacks mutual respect. It lacks any form of stimulation that is enjoyable to feel. It is void of the mere concept of sexual evolution, as most of it focuses on a male partner having a large penis, while the female’s main role is to encourage him to use it in every way possible in all of her orifices.

Porn can infuse various sexual dysfunctions and unrealistic expectations, leading to detrimental effects on the relationship. Many may, as a result of pornographic influence, expect their partner to react the way porn stars react on screen; they forget that this is all just a staged play. Similar to Plato’s Allegory of the Cave, porn is nothing more than a distorted reflection of real sex, where all the multi-sensory experience should be involved.

Porn could provide tonnes of misconceptions about what a sexual relationship should encompass, and a rather disturbed vision of physical pleasures may also develop. In fact, one of the biggest drawbacks about porn is that it is mostly created with a male audience in mind. Therefore, there is very little genuine female pleasure involved. For an inexperienced person, porn might give a very wrong idea about what actually feels good during real sex.

For the purpose of this article, we won’t be going into the discussion about the obvious links between pornography, prostitution and human trafficking. There was, is and will always be nothing glamorous about selling your body for money. All the acting and editing simply creates a more consumable wrapping for activities which are very often borderline illegal, misogynistic and abusive.

Unlike porn, real sex should be about a personal exploration, about writing your own story and creating memorable, beautiful and passionate experiences. According to some beliefs, sex is the highest form of energy. So let’s not get caught up in the play of distorted shadows and turn away from the real fire. Let’s enhance our intimacy, and not have it shaped and formed by what this branch of media is forcing onto us. You might be soon surprised to see the most tremendous action not on the screen of your computer, but rather in the mirror of your own bedroom.

 

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