WHAT CAN YOU LEARN FROM PORN?

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Some people jerk off to it while others are scandalised by it. But is there anything we could all learn from porn?

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Porn was never meant to be educational. Unlike other modes of entertainment, say theatre, television, reading or listening to music, porn is not meant to do anything but get you off. It doesn’t pretend to be instructive. It doesn’t differentiate between highbrow and lowbrow. It doesn’t even give you instructions. It’s just there, and you’re meant to enjoy it for what it is.

But there are things that porn can – unwittingly – teach you.

Women enjoy sex too: All too often, we are made to assume that women don’t enjoy or think about sex, and that it’s just the man’s prerogative. That’s wrong and untrue. I love sex, and so do 99% of my girlfriends. Porn can give the impression that we’re gagging for it, granted, but it also shows that we can and will enjoy a good banging session.

Rough sex isn’t always sexy: I don’t watch a lot of porn. In fact, I almost never watch porn unless my girlfriends and I have a night off life. You know, one of those nights where we pretend to be 15 again and have our nails done and watch porn and laugh. However, one thing I’ve noticed is that rough sex sometimes looks so… silly. The man is going at it like his life depends on it. Yes, ladies and gentlemen, sometimes slow and sensual is better than barbaric.

Having a sexual fantasy is OK: We all have kinks, and it’s nothing to be ashamed of… and porn vouches for that. It teaches us that people can be into – literally – anything. It also shows that it’s okay if feet get you off, or if you want to get pissed on, of if you want to have your balls kicked. At least, there are other people out there who like these things, too.

Older men and women can be hot: Few 18 year-old men would go out with a 40-year-old woman, but many will happily jerk off to one. In fact, porn teaches us that older doesn’t mean less sexy; quite the contrary, actually.

Some men like to experiment: I’m always impressed by how many of my friends just have penis-in-vagina sex with their husbands and partners. They’ve never done anything ‘wild’ like, I don’t know, 69ers or rimming. Most people have some sort of kink or fetish, and that includes men, most of who would be only too happy to experiment with certain things. So why not ask them?

I’m going to get really deep here – no pun intended – and point out that porn really is a reflection of humanity. It captures, on film, the depths that we would sink to for arousal, and our primeval desires that we’re too ashamed to admit in public but that we are happy to engage in in private.

In fact, you should never dismiss porn as simply debauched, because there is more to porn that first meets the eye.

Do you agree with Evelyn? Is there anything you can think of that porn teaches us?

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