HELP! My Boyfriend Watches Porn!

What should you do if you find out your boyfriend is watching porn? Should you worry? Confront him? Leave him? Or let him be?

For starters, don’t panic. Most men watch porn and masturbate for no other reason than to appease their horniness – trust me, I’m a man, I would know. It is rarely used as a form of disrespect, particularly because we are usually alone when we do it and no one else will see us do it.

While most of us understand that our girlfriends/wives might get offended by the fact that we are watching other women naked and we are pleasuring ourselves to them, you must also understand that most men don’t see this as cheating – and I’m not making up excuses here, I’m being honest.

Sex with our girlfriends/wives is an intimate affair; one that most of us enjoy and look forward to. Porn and masturbation, on the other hand, usually spur from animalistic impulses. We’re at home, we get bored or horny, we knock one out and carry on with our day – it’s got nothing to do with the women in our lives, but with Mother Nature.

Of course this changes if you and your man haven’t had sex in a long time, and at this point, yes, do confront him. But before you confront him, ask yourselves the following questions:

  1. Has he been the one not making any advances or you? Whoever it’s been, why do you think this has happened?
  2. Has he been complaining he’s tired but then going off to jack off before bed? If so, what’s the story? If he were cheating, he probably wouldn’t be at home jacking off in front of a computer, but then again, something is wrong!
  3. And, if you’ve been the one to withhold sex, then are you hurt by the fact he’s rubbing his knob while looking at other women or at the fact that he’s found a way to, in many, many inverted commas, “replace” you?

Nevertheless, if your sex life is healthy and you weren’t worried in the slightest before you realised he still watches porn, then the best thing to do is:

  1. Sit him down and ask him about it without being judgemental. Show him you want to understand and let him know how you feel.
  2. Ask him whether it’s a certain kind of pornography that he enjoys rather than just looking at naked women. He might have a kink which he’s ashamed to share with you – this is a Pandora’s box, however, so open at your own risk.
  3. Chill. If things are fine, then just remember that these are women in a not-so-natural environment. It’s a world of fantasy just a couple of visuals away from 50 Shades of Grey!

What do you think of James’s opinion? Do you agree? Let us know!