A time for sharing, a time for being

There always comes a time when you are left alone, due to being busy or constantly working or because the people that you generally surround yourself with are not there. Ending up alone is perhaps the greatest fear of many. The simple knowledge of it can make you feel quite melancholic and if it’s a bad day even send you into a panic.

This is perhaps man’s greatest weakness and strength, the need to surround ourselves with other people. Unfortunately this is not as simple as it sounds. Befriending people, talking to strangers, creating a social life for yourself can be quite difficult and if a person finds it hard to communicate with others, this can be a nightmare. What do you do? Mostly there is one thing to do and that is to learn how to spend time alone with yourself – not because you have to, but because you want to.

Spending time alone, doing the things you love to do, being yourself and dealing with yourself, can give you an insight on a lot of things – what you want and do not want, what makes you happy or not. Being fine with being alone is mostly the key to not feeling lonely. Yes there will be times when we feel lonely and at times we need to feel lonely, because that is what makes us human, sadness and happiness intertwine in our daily lives.

We cannot always be surrounded by other people, we cannot always feel happy, we have good days and bad days, and sometimes it is alright to soak in that loneliness. Understanding that a situation does not please you and then making a decision to take action to change it, not only restores balance to your life, but makes you appreciate more what you have and make an effort for what you don’t. It’s when we feel good about ourselves that we can live through the good times and the bad, it’s when we learn to be alone, that we learn not to feel lonely.